So yesterday i wrote a blog on mommie diaries. And today is kind of extension off of that but not really. i kind of want to showcase what happens often but no one really sees it because well i never saw it until it happened to my brother. and for dignity reasons i am going to change the names of the people who are involved with this. So here’s my story.
for as long as i could remember Jack (my brother) and Jill were an item. they were glued at the hip they met in high school and kind of kicked it off i guess. they were the average couple, they broke up and got back together again and again. when the end of the school year came jack and Jill broke up, jack felt that Jill was wayyy to controlling. My family moved to the together part of the city and kind of got on with our lives. in our new home thing were going great and on a dead on street we were so happy when we found out we were getting neighbors. Well to our surprise it was Jill and her family. we were kind of shocked its been a while since jack and Jill had seen each other and we didn’t know what direction this would go. As time went on we began to see jack and Jill around each other all the time and as fate would have it they began dating again, we were all very happy for them they made each other happy.
In early february i woke up and went to the bathroom, once i got out of the bathroom i noticed something was wrong. I called my cousin “december Ann” and told her i need to go to the store. walking through the store december ann asked what are we doing here? i said just go to what u gotta do. and i walked down the pregnancy test isle. i bought a test (December ann could barely hold in her excitement) so i took the test at the store. Sure as shit i was pregnant, December ann was so excited she dropped stuff and started dancing in the isle. i told my mom and my bf at the time and everyone was really supportive. When i got back home i wanted to tell jack and he wasn’t there , no doubt he was with Jill. So i texted jack and told him i was pregnant he was happy. later on i was on fb and a message popped up from Jill. She said she had heard the good news i said yea i’m expecting and i’m a little scared personally. she said i never would have pegged you to be pregnant i said welcome to the club (i always said i wasn’t going to have kids). and you know how sometimes if you know a person very well you don’t need to see them or hear their voice to know something is wrong. Yea this was like that so i asked Jill whats up whats the matter? and she said what she had always said when this subject came up. How bad she wanted a baby. i said trust me girl it will happen when u least expect it. as the months went by Jill didn’t talk to me like i had the plague. i began to think if i had done something wrong and eventually brushed it off as if she comes around she does if not oh well.
In mid september i gave birth to a beautiful bouncing baby boy 5lbs 9oz. 19 and 1\2 inches long. (buppa his nickname) and two days after that i was home. EVERYONE who was anyone i knew came over to see him. My little peanut was famous lol. one person i didn’t see was Jill. being my neighbor i would have thought it doesn’t take much to take 20 steps and arrive at my front door but again i was like oh whatever i have more things i have to deal with. later on that week i was taking buppa to his doctor’s appointment with “December ann” and i seen Jill outside. As i came out carrying the car seat she stopped me she peeked inside the car seat and she said omg he’s so cute. i smiled and said “thanks” and kind of went on with my business i looked back and Jill stayed standing there. i have to admit i was a bit scared, after 8 months of watching lifetime and all these movies about people stealing people’s babies yea i was ready to invest in some ADT security. But again i brushed it off and went on my way. As time went on Jill talked to me here and there and often asked how buppa was doing and expressing her want to have a baby. i told her it will happen when you are ready and when u least expect it take it from me. she never liked that answer. Jack used to tell me how stressed he was he just wanted to make Jill happy and a baby was the way.
So as the months continued to pass they turned into years, and two years later i got a text from jack. you’ll never believe it he says Jill is pregnant! OMG i was soo happy for them this is what jack and Jill wanted and i couldn’t have been happier.
Now as a first time mom i remember my pregnancy and how crazy i was but Jill…. She was a raging nutcase!! she would harass jack and tell him he’s not doing anything for her and tell him one minute she loves him and the next to fuck off. i was like WOW! so a few months went by of this nagging and jack was trying to find a job, Jill became increasingly impatient with him, jack is the type that would give his last penny to a stranger the shirt off his back to the homeless so as he was out trying to find a job to support his daughter Jill was none to happy with that.
At about 3 months pregnant jack got a text from Jill and she said they needed to split up, jack was devastated he begged Jill not to leave him and said that he would be there more and do whatever he had to. Jill refused him and continued to just misjudge his activities saying he was out doing things he wasn’t and that he was purposely avoiding her. Which i will be the first to say wasnt true. She continued to tell jack that he couldn’t do anything more for his family (although Jill was controlled by her family and often couldn’t leave the house because she was babysitting her sisters two children.) so after a few day jack gave Jill what she wanted, he said he would agree to the break up but wanted to be in his daughter’s life she agreed. So for a few more month jack did his best to comfort Jill and was there for all the appointments he could my family helped out as well. We all kind of chalked it up to pregnancy hormones.
So for Jill baby shower, they purchased a hall. Everyone was invited, jack and Jill were in communication the entire time. My mom had made the party favors, several guest had parked at my house first and then planned to leave from my house to the hall. 2 hours before the baby shower happened, Jack got a text saying that my family was un-invited from the baby shower!! like wow! Are you serious? i thought. well in true family fashion this didn’t stop us cause that baby was just as much jacks as it was jill’s. so we held a baby shower of our own for jack. the gift and food that were suppose to be at the hall stayed home with us and we had our selves a good time. After this unfortunate event Jill began avoid jack and all his messages. she said she would contact jack when she was in labor and ready to have the baby.
Months passed and it was right around her due date and i asked jacked did she contact you yet? did she have the baby and he said no. and attempted to call her. no answer and this was normal because for lack of better term Jill was being a bitch! so he continued to wait. about a week later jack called Jill and she said that she was home, jack said is every thing ok? like hows the pregnancy going. Jill stated i had her 4 days ago!
OMG i flipped my lid. like let me just be the first to say the moment i locked eyes with my son when he was born it was like something out of a movie, we gazed at each other and nothing else mattered. i know just from what they say but fathers have that same reaction and this woman, neglected to let my brother see his daughter be born…. THIS IS WAR! he missed his moment and furthermore she didn’t want jack to see his daughter, in addition she broke the previous terms they had agreed on, the baby’s last name was not Jack, and the religion was not jacks either. So Jill just did what she wanted and totally pushed Jack out of the picture. I was furious! i couldn’t believe it, so many time its the father who leaves but i watched Jack bust his ass for his unborn daughter while in the meantime Jill was just taking advantage of him.
Time passed and jack was able to meet his daughter and her Jill’s new bae. yup no sooner was my niece 3 weeks old but Jill was on to her next victim. Jill began spamming Facebook saying jack was a dead beat dad that my mom was vindictive and that her new bae was more of a father than jack could ever be. No i am irish and if it was not for my brother i would have went over there and shown them what the irish do! the new bae that we will refer to as “Stavi” was all about having as life will jill and the fact that Jack was a deadbeat. Although he had never met jack because stavi lived in another city and Jill had to travel there and leave her daughter to go see him which she did often! there was a post on Facebook and its soooo foreshadowing but it was from stavi saying ” even if i was not with the mother i would still be part of my kids life if i got her pregnant” OOOOOh poor stavi what you didn’t know!
Maybe a few weeks later i got a call.. guess what??? hmm i don’t know.. what… Jill is pregnant, (and my response is a bit graphic) i said “what do you mean that hoe is pregnant her snatch ain’t even done bleeding yet” and he said yea shes knocked up, i said by who they said , STAVI! no fucking way. Well let me just be the bearer of bad news and say stavi left her ass with the quickness and became victim #2 of the drama on Facebook, i can say that stavi apologized ti jack but told Jill he wanted nothing to do with her.and my word although a bit rough was “Tough luck kid!”
Now i don’t know what happens between stavi and Jill but i can tell you that Jill became more of a bitch for a little while to jack. she tried controlling when he could see his daughter and when he could talk to her. Jill must have got some sense knocked into her head (and by sense i mean my momma went on over there and set her straight) and Jill became a little more ok with letting jack take the baby. Although the shit talking never stopped and i ended up tell Jill she was an ignorant ass for what she did and further more i can only hope that stavi gets to see his kid be born or are you going to robbed another man of his moment and her response was simple. She said These are my kids. and i told her listen woman, u didn’t do it by yourself so get off ur high horse before i knock u off it.
Now in the present Jill just had her baby, bouncing baby boy, and stavi as far as i know has talked to her but has no interest in getting with her and was not contacted for the birth of his kid either. it makes me think, after all this and my niece is nearly 1 now or will be in a few weeks. that to rob someone of that moment is like no being awake when my son was born, i would die if i had to miss that moment. Something i can never experience again, yes i can have more kids but its like they say first time experience. Yes that’s what it is. i’m glad to report that jack gets to see his daughter because of the recent fact that Jill needed help with having another baby and all and when the wash was hung out to dry Jack found out that stavi wasn’t just some guy that jill met, No she cheated on jack will jack was trying to find a job to support her and the baby Jill was banging stavi.
Have you ever heard of a story like this? i would never have imagined that this happens, later one after my niece was born i was explaining the case to a co-worker and surprisingly he said yea this just happened to a friend of his
Come on!!! are you serious? what kind of woman do this. i’m sure that certain cases have their reasons but Jill just lied and made everyone believe that jack wasn’t even trying to see his daughter. Until my mom went over there to set shit straight, Jill continued to ask jack for money even after she took him to court for child support i told jack don’t do it. She thinks it’s so easy, let her do it, jack told me no and if the baby need formula that he would get it. i said fine but be sure to never hand her money. And so now yes Jill needs the help so its ok for jack but she makes these comments like i know you want to be with me. like seriously she’s just trying to set up for baby number 3. my advice to my brother jack. DO NOT STICK UR DICK IN THAT BLOODY TRAP…
Tell me have you had experience with this? do you know someone it happened to and what do u think jack should have done different or was he in the right and how about Jill?
Sincerely,
The Filterless Blogger
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